There has been a lot written recently about singleness with advice on everything from how to find your perfect match to dining alone. And there are thousands of products marketed to us – cars and books to dating sites and cruises. What does “single” really mean anyway? Not too much today I’m afraid. And the inconsistencies with which it is used are puzzling. For instance – Surveys and various forms break it down into single, divorced, widowed, or separated. But socially (as most churches) it’s never broken down further than a one size fits all single. The word “single” has taken on so much negative connotation today that the majority of them have left the church. It would be sort of like walking into a room that’s labeled “lepers.” I think that is especially true with men. In a sex worship society that expects them to “have some” all the time, they don’t want to take the chance of being ridiculed amongst strangers or accused of living an alternative lifestyle. I’ve heard this from many men and I think we can thank the media and priest scandals for much of this paranoia. Only in a pornographic could it be considered wrong to be a solitary man.
Whereas a husband and wife depend on each other, the solitary man depends on Christ. For everything. Most people would probably have difficulty comprehending that fact, especially those not familiar with the Bible. “Oh no, you can’t be serious. You mean you’ve never had s&%. How can you stand it?” You have to give “it” a name first. It’s called celibacy and is all in God’s hands. He is the master of self control and balance. Look at the living creatures around you. Some reproduce sexually. And some asexually (tulips, dahlias, strawberries). For the Christian single called to the solitary life, children can take the form of those they mentor and lead to Christ. As you can see, when viewed in the right light, celibacy can become quite an intellectual pursuit.
Solitary. Alone. One. Uno. Celibate. No Sleep Number bed.
Could you walk up to a strange man on the banks of the Jordan River and comfortably sit down beside him and have a long conversation? If you can’t feel comfortable with Apostle Paul, you’re probably not going to make it to his door in eternity. Of course, you would never feel comfortable with Christ either. One. It’s a real number. It’s a real way of life. A solitary life.
IAre you willing to demonstrate Christ’s love by pushing aside your suspiciousness and inviting a solitary friend to a Christmas event this year?
Thank you CE.