I’m not sure who started the current born again virgin phenomena. When I first saw it in print, I wanted to laugh and cry at the same time. My first questions were: What does virginity have to do with being born again? Are all people who commit to purity again Christians? Do nonvirgins need a particular kind of salvation? Has it got anything to do with Christianity? Why are people using the phrase? How do you justify using it? I think the whole idea is an example of deception taken to another level. It is grammatically misleading at its finest. And it takes oxymoron to a whole new level. The reason it works today is because so many people are . . . morons. They are uneducated, especially when it comes to biblical terminology. The ever changing nature of the contemporary English language also toys with their reason. Add to that the fact that sex has lost almost all spiritual meaning and has more or less become a recreational sport. Mix in greed and excess — and deception becomes quite easy. A pretty face makes it almost . . . believable. Who will ever know, especially in a world where there are no scarlet letters?
One example that comes to mind is “born again virgin” Sean Lowe on ABC’s The Bachelor. All of the commentaries I’ve read describe him as someone who is saving sex “from now on” for marriage. Isn’t it amazing how three little words “from now on” can put an entirely different spin on an otherwise generic statement? Those words effectively cancel out the very definition of virginity. Could it be a reflection of America’s downward spiral into moral depravity? I think so. It’s also a reflection of how far ad agencies will go to market what passes as entertainment today. Hijacking a word seems innocuous enough on the surface. But dig beneath the surface and you’ll find everything but Christian intentions. The high tech world has honed language manipulation to a fine art – firewalls, icons, interfaces, tweets, etc. If it makes money, they’ll put any word on it. Have we reached the point where we see ourselves as having restart buttons? Are our bodies just machines that can be rebooted when things go wrong? Can all memories be immediately erased? Of course, all who have bought into the value system of modernity and intelligent robots will tell you it’s possible. When the robot gets a little rusty, you just pop in a performance enhancing pill. A little old? Just get an upgrade. Wrong sex? Just change your wardrobe and choose any bathroom you want.
To combat this trend, do we need to refer to ourselves as “authentic virgins”? Can you foresee a world where every virtue will be called into question? What about every object and event in the known universe? Do we need a new grammatical category for secondary nouns? What about virtual honesty? Most of the time kindness? If it’s convenient honor? Before lunch patience? Where do you stop? What about prelicked postage stamps? Once used water? New again toothbrushes? Almost new bandaids? Without standards, a house of mirrors will seem like jump rope.
I have no problem with anybody being born again in any situation. And singles with pasts who do become Christians should strive for celibacy until marriage. But no matter how much spin is put on it or how many words are hijacked, they are not virgins again. Born again and salvation cannot be used as descriptives for virginity itself. There is nothing in the Bible that links the two. It’s interesting that virginity has been placed on the same level as salvation. Is the Christian community doing an adequate job of explaining what purity is? That it involves more than just the physical body? Maybe not. Should we let the secular world define Christian virtues? Certainly not.
I realize there are Christian singles using this phrase, even those who are waiting, who do not even consider virginity part of the definition of chastity. They just commit to a period of waiting before marriage and fidelity within marriage. In other words, they define chastity in real time only with no consideration of the past. It might make someone uncomfortable or eliminate them in a tight dating scene. Being a virgin might give somebody else an advantage. Can’t have that in a politically correct “shared sacrifice” world, can we?. When it comes to a past of premarital sex though, no amount of forgiveness can undo the emotional consequences and miraculously send a person back in time to a state of virginity. Einstein may like that idea. But it is not reality. And certainly not biblical. Of course, it may help nativity scenes make a comeback because there would be a politically correct . . . born again virgin Mary.