An interesting phenomenom I’ve noticed lately in the world of singleness is that nearly all personal testimonies include a sordid tale of sexual sin and redemption. No stories about self control and righteousness. And it seems the more selacious the story the bigger the audience. It all falls in line with a morally corrupt society, one where a story of purity becomes more and more uncomfortable. Where does purity fit in a society that worships sex and marriage? Purity today is seen as emptiness, immaturity, self righteousness, lack of responsibility, adolescence. Not worth much for the masses. It won’t sell car insurance, can’t express your freedom, doesn’t need protection, and doesn’t sell on a street corners. In short, it doesn’ have a story to tell a sin filled world that would rather hear about adultery, fornication, pedophilia, homosexuality, and all other kinds of perversion. And unfortuately this trend has worked its way into churches and other religious circles. Here’s a sampling of singles’ “testimonies” from the internet:
“Then all of a sudden one day our eyes were opened and we realized that our bodies began to notice things about each other physically and that’s when sex happened.”
“I had PRE MARITAL SEX I AM CONDEMNING MYSELF and I can’t forgive the guy. After I gave everything to him , he dropped me and choose the other girl.”
“I’m pregnant and I don’t know what to do. I intentionally sinned when I made the decision to let my desire control me and have sex last month”
” . . . my boyfriend who i met in church is also active in church we have managed to remain pure until today the temptation was so much and we gave in . . . “
Apparently many people today think that a tragic story of downfall is required to become a Christian, that you’ve got to go through Sodom to get to heaven. Of course that is not a requirement. It is possible to accept Christ at a young age and live a life of self control and righteousness. Consider the story of Joseph in the Bible. He committed his life to God and purity at a young age. Even after being sold into slavery to Potiphar, his committment to sexual purity did not change. According to Genesis 39:12-20:
“When Potiphar’s wife “came and grabbed him by his cloak, demanding, “Come on, sleep with me!” Joseph tore himself away, but he left his cloak in her hand as he ran from the house. When she saw that she was holding his cloak and he had fled, she called out to her servants. Soon all the men came running. “Look!” she said. My husband has brought this Hebrew slave here to make fools of us! He came into my room to rape me, but I screamed. When he heard me scream, he ran outside and got away, but he left his cloak behind with me. She kept the cloak with her until her husband came home. Then she told him her story. “That Hebrew slave you’ve brought into our house tried to come in and fool around with me,” she said. “But when I screamed, he ran outside, leaving his cloak with me!” Potiphar was furious when he heard his wife’s story about how Joseph had treated her. So he took Joseph and threw him into the prison where the king’s prisoners were held, and there he remained.”
Three powerful words – tore himself away. Imagine that, a man rejecting sex! Notice though that Joseph didn’t get to tell his story. Potiphar believed his wife with no questions asked. Men’s virtue in those days didn’t have much value either. Just as today, it was a woman/child worship society where women were expected to set the sexual standards. How many testimonies do we hear from men today who tore themselves away from seducers and defended their purity? Unfortunately, men of character today have to deal with false accusations just as well – from homosexuality to irresponsibility. Not only is their virtue considered worthless, it has fallen onto the negative side of the balance sheet. Virtuous Christian single ladies – I encourage you to listen to the stories of men of honor, set aside your suspiciousness and listen to the Josephs in the real world today. Not all their testimonies sound like sex in the city. There are men today who accepted Christ at a young age too and are saving sex until marriage. Potiphar’s wife screamed to the masses and they believed her. You are going to have to communicate to the world the value you place on virtuous men and stand up to Potiphar’s wife and say “shut up and sit down woman!” Should stories of brokeness and forgiveness be worth more than stories of self control and righteousness? Who have you listened too lately? How much is a virtuous man worth to you?