This post is to encourage ladies who not only believe in saving sex until marriage, but are also living the life. It is for those who have waited, are waiting, and will wait. If you’ve made mistakes, are forgiven, and waiting again – that is perfectly fine and I tip my hat to you. But this message is for those who are still waiting. The difference in the support needed is like comparing apples to oranges. It is in no way meant to be judgmental.
For those of you who have publicly identify yourselves, created blogs of encouragement for men and women who are still waiting, written books on purity, even spoken to groups on chastity and abstinence — Thank you so much. My hat not only tips, it goes off to you. I am very aware of your security concerns. I had the same about a year ago when I started this blog. I know many of you have had to deal with everything from email attacks to blog bombs – demonstrating perseverance and courage beyond the call of duty. Your visible witness not only matters to a few men today, but it defends the future of Christian virtue for your children and grandchildren. Silence in the midst of a dark world will always be filled with noise and decadence. Thank you for speaking up. It matters.
If you ever come to a point where you think “I’m the only virgin left in the world” or “there’s not a guy my age waiting anymore,” remember that you’re not the only one left and that there are still guys who treasure you. In the world we live in today, I know that is difficult to believe. When you look out a window that’s layered with fog, specks of light become very difficult to see. There are Christian guys looking out the same window, who see the same fog. So no matter what the statistics tell you and when you want to throw up your hands and say “that’s a one in a million man,” be conscious of how you present yourself in public because . . . he could be there. No matter if it’s a service station, grocery store, post office. Real men live. God still intervenes to bring people together. You may have to decide which is more important – his career and financial success or that he is a man of God waiting with you, waiting to be equally yoked with you.
I do realize that for some of you publicly identifying yourself seems impossible – whether it be from embarrassment, security issues, privacy, etc. You may find it more comfortable to graze from blog to blog, hiding in the shadows of anonymity. But we are in a war and darkness needs to be exposed to light. If ugly words hurled at you bring you to your knees today, you need to rethink your commitment to wait. It’s going to take tougher skin than that. In order to affirm something, you must be willing to defend it. At one time in history, knights defended maidens at all costs. It was known as chivalry. So every chance we get, let’s show the world what it is missing. Show men with dignity and self control that they are worth more than a distrustful glance, an anonymous email, or adolescent games. There really is no gray area here. You either build a guy up to what he can be or you tear him down to what he used to be. It’s your choice.
So to all of you who are waiting – Carry your commitments just as strong into 2014. It’s God’s design. And it’s what’s best for us. Be bold. Be strong. Wait.
Thank you to –
https://www.facebook.com/Godswomaninwaiting – Rachel Hamilton